Category: Fulfilment

  • Don’t let your identity limit you

    People often use the word identity as if it’s who they are, but really it means how you identify yourself or what groups you identify with. It’s who you are, as seen from the outside. An identity is a social construct, like a character you play. Often, it’s empowering to embrace an identity – to […]

  • Relationships are key to happiness

    The Harvard Adult Development Study began in 1938 and still runs to this day. It started by looking at the lifestyle, habits and health of 724 men, both working class and Harvard students, with the aim of following the subjects over a long period, to see what factors early in life might predict good health […]

  • Strengthen Your Inner Witness

    Do you feel guilty going through customs, even when you have nothing to hide? Are you extremely nervous at job interviews, or meeting new people? Chances are you have a mean inner critic. An inner critic is an imaginary character who holds the worst possible opinions of you and tells you exactly what they think, […]

  • What Counts at Work…

    Have you ever thought about how your job affects your attitudes? When I worked with children in care, I came to believe that all children were passive and that every generation was doomed to be less capable than the last. Similarly, I knew a store detective whose default attitude to strangers was to be suspicious […]

  • Before you get SMART, know where you’re going and why

    You’ve probably heard that you’re more likely to succeed if you set SMART goals, because SMART goals are measurable. In other words, you can tick the boxes as you achieve them. The beauty of this is that each ticked box rewards you with the little dopamine hit needed to get you over the hurdle of […]

  • New Problem, New Approach

    Every day we have decisions to make.  Should I clear up these dishes now and risk being late for that appointment, or prioritise the appointment and deal with the dishes later? Or should I hurry and hope to do both? Normally we don’t think for long; we just default to our usual way of doing […]

  • Comfort discourages heroism

    Heroes overcome obstacles. Whether it’s a passerby who risks danger to save others in a one-off incident, or a human rights campaigner working tirelessly over a lifetime, a hero doesn’t take the easy road. Most of us don’t aspire to be heroes; we leave that for exceptional human beings. We prefer to mind our own […]

  • Purpose and Work

    Marci Shimoff tells a story about three men on a building site. When asked what they’re doing, the first replies that he is laying bricks. The second replies that he is proud to be practising his trade as a bricklayer. The third replies that he is building a beautiful cathedral. This story demonstrates the different […]

  • A brighter future for the world

    As it becomes increasingly clear that the ways we have organised ourselves in the industrialised world have been bad for us as humans, as well as destructive for the planet, more and more people are thinking for themselves about what is truly important. And now that the internet can connect people across the globe, individuals […]

  • Rethinking the Hard Times

    December is a good time to reflect on the past year and to re-evaluate our life’s direction. As we set intentions for the coming year, we’re acknowledging the importance of making choices and plans in line with our values. However, life rarely proceeds according to our prearranged schedule. There will be external pressures and unforeseen […]