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Looking at things from all sides
A wise teacher of mine used to challenge her students with the question, “What if the opposite were true?” This is a great way to prompt lateral thinking. It can help us to spot where our supposedly logical conclusions might be based on rather tenuous assumptions and help us to understand how someone else might […]
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Compassion and happiness
It’s well known among happiness researchers that people who do volunteer work and have an altruistic approach to life are happier than those who focus on themselves. This has been shown through statistical surveys and also through brain imaging. Richard Davidson put Buddhist monk volunteers into an fMRI machine and got them listen to people’s […]
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Why Good Things Happen to Good People
Why Good Things Happen to Good People: How to live a longer, healthier, happier life by the simple act of giving by Stephen Post and Jill Neimark Stephen Post is head of the Institute for Research into Unlimited Love, an organisation that funds and collates love-related studies. In this book, he and his fellow author […]
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Social media and wellbeing
This year the World Happiness Report focussed on social media. They found that when young people gave up social media for a month, their wellbeing improved. Deactivated users were happier, more satisfied with their lives, less anxious and less depressed. In short: giving up social media made them happier. It’s not that simple, though. When […]
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How can I be happy when the world is in flames?
Global instability reminds us that we are all connected. Devastating faraway events have local effects, such as rising prices. Naturally, we have feelings about it; perhaps anger or despair. Happiness seems inappropriate. It seems cruel to be happy when others are suffering, and naïve not to focus on our own impending losses. In our relatively […]
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“Charity begins at home.” What does it mean?
Originally, the word charity referred to a virtue: it meant a loving attitude towards others. More recently it refers to giving to those in need, and charities are organisations that facilitate such giving. Humans are wired to care most about those closest to them, and when times are tough, it can be tempting to draw […]
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Responding to being ‘put in your place’
Sometimes a person’s comment leaves you feeling uncomfortable, irritated or even angry. If their words sound neutral, it can be hard to explain why their comment was upsetting. Worse, if you react emotionally, you can come across as unreasonable or oversensitive. We tend to focus on the information contained in the words, but the more […]
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Strangely familiar?
Advertising companies have long profited from a simple, but powerful psychological fact: the more familiar we are with something, the safer it makes us feel. We might think we’re unaffected by repeated exposure to ads, but the reality is that when buying a product, we’re likely to reach for the one with the familiar logo, […]
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Don’t let your identity limit you
People often use the word identity as if it’s who they are, but really it means how you identify yourself or what groups you identify with. It’s who you are, as seen from the outside. An identity is a social construct, like a character you play. Often, it’s empowering to embrace an identity – to […]
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Relationships are key to happiness
The Harvard Adult Development Study began in 1938 and still runs to this day. It started by looking at the lifestyle, habits and health of 724 men, both working class and Harvard students, with the aim of following the subjects over a long period, to see what factors early in life might predict good health […]